Social Media / Facebook/ Self-Care
Why I’m Leaving Facebook
“Your heart knows the way, run in that direction – Rumi”
My reason why
I’ve had a hate-love-hate relationship with Facebook for a long time now.
I actually can’t remember the last time I used my personal Facebook account, and my business page is currently home to tumbleweeds.
After almost of decade of trying to make Facebook work for my business I am ready to throw in the towel. By giving myself permission to do this, I feel quite liberated.
So what’s changed?
- I have
- Facebook has
- You have
- Everyone has
- The world has
Yeah I got a bit dramatic there
My Social Media Behaviour Today
I think it’s really important to address how and why I have changed.
Over the past year, I’ve become very aware of the toxicity of some social media platforms.
Inside Facebook, I don’t have to scroll for long before I see something that cranks up my anxiety to Defcon 1.
As a result, I no longer scroll as a habit, and I avoid the Facebook newsfeed altogether. I’ve even removed the FB app from my phone to prevent *Anxiety Scrolling
*Anxiety Scrolling – The process of scrolling social media newsfeeds to distract from current feelings of anxiety only to feel worse because of the content found ‘on the scroll’
During the past year, I’ve found things like mobile phone notifications very stressful and have turned them off where possible.
By personal choice and for my own mental health, I’ve become very limited in my activity on Facebook.
"The Facebook newsfeed cranks up my anxiety to Defcon 1"
As a small business owner on Facebook, I am increasingly frustrated with spending time creating content that is only seen by 1% of my followers.
As a result, I’ve lost trust and faith in it being a good place to spend my time.
Everyone else’s behaviour, including yours
If I’ve retreated from the toxicity of the Facebook newsfeed then it stands to reason that I am not alone.
We are all a bit rung out from fake news, distraction media, comparison anxiety and the fear of missing out.
I feel that we are all realising that we need to take more breaks from social media to support our mental health and wellbeing.
What Do I Plan to Do Next?
To start with I plan to:
- Continue to stay away from the Facebook newsfeed
- Only use Facebook for Groups (which I talk about in a moment)
- Use Instagram for my business on two accounts @themagickalcreatrix and @lunar_stag_oracle
- Keep my Facebook Business Page open (as it’s connected to my IG), and share new blogs and important announcements only as I move away from the platform entirely.
- Make blogging and email my primary form of keeping in touch with you.
"My goal is to create more and stress less!"
Poof! Will I Vanish Off the Face of the Earth?
Absolutely not. In fact, I’m hoping quite the opposite.
By focusing on blogging and Instagram only, I expect to have the capacity to create even better content for you to get your teeth into. You’re just going to have to follow me in a different way that’s all.
Let’s talk about my blog
I have to hold my hands up and say that I’ve neglected to blog for well over a year now.
One big reason for this was the amount of time I was losing on social media. And the other big reason has been a lack of interest in things due to the stress of the pandemic.
It’s taken me this long to make this move as I felt trapped after hanging out on Facebook for my business for so long.
I want to share more personal, supporting and inspiring content with you.
I want to teach about lunar astrology and working with the Moon while showing you how this shows up in my own life.
I want to inspire you to get creative, journal, make big changes and explore who you are deep down inside.
And I fully believe that my blog is the way that I can deliver this to you.
"I want to blog about the things that can change our lives for the better"
What about Facebook Groups
I said I would mention Facebook groups and this is the trickiest part of the whole thing for me.
I have used Facebook groups to host my communities connected to the courses I create and join. And although I’ve fallen out of love with Facebook, groups do have advantages.
I still use a Facebook group for The Magickal Moon Empowerment Portal which is my monthly subscription membership all about connecting with yourself using the lunar energies as your guide.
This is something that won’t change for the foreseeable future as it works really well. However, I have added a forum into the private membership area which means members don’t need to be on Facebook to get access to myself and the other members of the community.
I’ve also started hosting my live events for the portal in Zoom rather than Facebook live which opens things up to a lot more people which is very exciting.
Is it just me?
I thought there was something wrong with me for feeling so strongly about my need to come away from Facebook. However, it turns out it’s not just me.
Leonie Dawson has recently quit all social media, not just Facebook, and her reasons are amazing. In her blog Why Me & My Business Don’t Do Social Media Anymore she details the benefits of her social media detox and the move to quit social media for good. Her blog is a long but valuable read.
Kelly Mae Roberts talks about How Quitting Social Media is Changing Everything For Her over on her blog. I loved hearing about this journey from a creative. Again her focus was on health, wellbeing and creativity.
How can we stay connected?
If you want to continue to hear from me regularly and follow my creative and spiritual journey to help inspire your own personal growth and development then here’s how:
How do you feel about social media?
- I would love to know your thoughts on this topic. Come and share them with me in the comments section below or email firstname.lastname@example.org